Dating in your forties blog
Perhaps you were in a live-in or long-term relationship that ended, so you’re single again.
As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around (or even the first) is not easy.
You spend part of your time trying to recover from, and make sense of, all these potentially lovely people who won’t give you the time of day, then the rest flicking off people in whom you have no interest. In theory, though, it should at least be less uncomfortably urgent for those of us of a certain age: somewhere between the first biological clock (gotta reproduce! We can treat the process itself — the search, the exchange of messages, the one-off dinners — as intellectually intriguing, diverting, amusing, and perhaps even a path toward self-knowledge.Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you.These negative beliefs prevent you from connecting, or worse, stop you from even looking.To date successfully you can’t be holding your dinner companion responsible for the sins of an ex.Give your date a fair chance, not comparing him to those who’ve come before. Try not to rush the get-to-know-each-other process.