Friends with benefits dating other people
Now, I understand that some of you might be reading this article specifically because you are sleeping with a friend and you want it to become something more.
If you do it the right way, having a friend with benefits can be one of the most rewarding interpersonal relationships of your life. For many, a friend with benefits is like training wheels for a real, grownup, relationship.
Unfortunately, your guy isn’t the one who wrote me this letter.
So I’m going to give you some advice on how you can see yourself a little more clearly.
When friends with benefits are also best friends, the line between dating and friendship gets blurred badly.
It’s certainly possible, but it requires that you look at things honestly and set clear boundaries for yourself. (aka: how to have a friends with benefits arrangement without drama, difficulty, or disaster) This means no neighbors, no co-workers, no ex-boyfriends, no guys that are currently your friend and no people within your social circle.
It also requires that you know yourself – some women can have a friends with benefits arrangement with a guy and have absolutely no problem with it… It’s a mixture of biology, personality, and psychology that will determine if you’re someone who can do it or not… I am not encouraging or advocating having a friends with benefits arrangement in your life or as a lifestyle. I’m simply answering your question and speaking to what friends with benefits rules will lead to the most successful results – those results being to get what you want without hurting anyone (including yourself) in the process. Really, the term “friends with benefits” is misleading because having a FWB arrangement is sleeping with a guy who’s your friend.
Be it with your FWB or someone you're dating casually.
If you have multiple partners, it's literally a matter of life and death.